Frequently Asked Questions

What is Divorce Coaching?

Divorce coaching is an Alternative Dispute Resolution process recognized by The American Bar Association and the Association for Conflict Resolution. They define it as follows:

"Divorce coaching is a flexible, goal-oriented process designed to support, motivate, and guide people going through divorce to help them make the best possible decisions for their future, based on their particular interests, needs, and concerns."

Is Divorce Coaching Worth the Cost?

Hiring a divorce coach is an investment in your post-divorce future and in your future co-parenting relationship with your soon-to-be ex-spouse. When you work with an alternative dispute resolution divorce coach, you will become aware of your values, conflict styles and patterns, and be prepared and supported in making informed, intentional decisions aligned with those values while navigating the inevitable divorce conflict

When is the best time to hire a divorce coach?

As early in the process as possible! The very best time to begin working with a divorce coach is when you are considering divorce or have decided to divorce but are not sure of the next best steps. A divorce coach can help you make decisions that set the stage for a cooperative, amicable divorce process that will save you time, money and protect your children from unnecessary conflict.

Can I work with you if I've hired an attorney?

Yes! We work with Clients who have attorneys and clients who do not. One of the benefits of having a divorce coach while you are represented by an attorney is that the coach can help you use your attorney's time as strategically and efficiently as possible so the money spent on legal fees is wisely spent.

Is divorce coaching therapy?

No. Divorce coaching is forward-focused, action-oriented . A helpful metaphor for envisioning the distinction, is if a client shows up to a therapist's office with a packed suitcase, the therapist will say, "let's see what's inside," while a divorce coach will say, "where are we going."

Will you give me legal advice?

No. A divorce coach does not give legal advice, but provides essential education about divorce, communication styles and patterns and dispute resolution. Also, because of my background as a lawyer, I know how to help you efficiently identify the issues you want to discuss with your lawyer, if you choose to hire one, which will help you use your legal fees wisely.